How Do I Support My Friend Experiencing an Unexpected Pregnancy?

Knowing what to do as you try to support your friend experiencing an unexpected pregnancy can be confusing. How do you console her? Does she want you to talk with her, or would she prefer some space?

Ultimately, remember that your friend will appreciate any effort you make to support her. Here are some easy tips to keep in mind along the way.

Be a Good Listener

Listening is the best way to help your friend feel seen and heard during this unexpected time. She may not have the words yet to describe her feelings and may need the time to process them.

She may need to express her emotions and process her pregnancy news by journaling.

Be patient with your friend and be open and available to talk when she’s ready. Offer your uninterrupted time and attention. Do your best to listen without feeling the need to respond right away or ‘say the right thing’.

You may be able to respond better when you give your friend as much time as she needs to talk, even if it takes a long time. When the time is right, encourage her in the conversation.

Support Her as She Shares the News

One of the most difficult parts of the pregnancy process for your friend is sharing the unexpected news with her partner, friends, and family.

If she needs support during this major step, do your best to stand by her side as she prepares to share the news with her loved ones. Your love and encouragement will mean the world to her.

Direct Her to Pregnancy Support

Help your friend get much-needed pregnancy support by directing her to a clinic like Mendo Lake Women’s Clinic. Our compassionate team is ready to help her confirm her pregnancy details and explore options.

With convenient clinic locations in both Ukiah and Clearlake, Mendo Lake Women’s clinic provides accurate pregnancy testing and limited ultrasound at no cost. She can talk safely and confidentially about all her pregnancy options.

We are here to be a resource and provide evidence-based educational materials to empower women to make the best decisions regarding their pregnancies. Your friend can schedule a confidential, no-cost appointment today.