
I’m Pregnant and My Partner is Abusive
An unexpected pregnancy can evoke strong emotions, which is especially true if you’re in an abusive relationship. This can be an incredibly challenging and isolating time, often leaving you confused about the best course of action.
It’s important to remember that the abuse you are experiencing is not your fault. You don’t have to tolerate this situation. Your safety, along with the safety of your pregnancy, should always be your top priority. Here’s some crucial information to help you through this difficult situation.
Start with the National Domestic Violence Hotline
If you feel unsafe, reaching out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) is a critical first step. The trained advocates there can help you create a personalized safety plan to protect both yourself and your pregnancy.
Mendo Lake Women’s Clinic also has resources to refer you locally for housing, food and other services. We can point you to local agencies that can offer not only immediate help, but also long term programs in both Lake and Mendocino Counties.
Whether you need a secure place to stay, resources to navigate your situation, or simply don’t know what to do, getting help can provide the options you need to move forward safely and with care.
Pregnancy Doesn’t End Abuse
It’s natural to hope that a pregnancy will change an abusive partner’s behavior. However, research shows that this is rarely the case. In fact, abuse can often escalate during pregnancy due to heightened stress, jealousy, or efforts to exert more control over you.
Being aware of this can help you prepare and take proactive steps to protect yourself and your pregnancy.
Recognize the Signs
Abuse is not always obvious. Often, it’s subtle, involving manipulation and control, which can make it difficult to recognize when you’re in an unhealthy relationship.
Some common signs include:
- Your partner isolates you from family and friends.
- They try to control your finances.
- Trying to belittle you or make you feel less than.
- They use threats or intimidation to prevent you from leaving.
- They heavily monitor your activity.
These are all red flags indicating an unhealthy dynamic. Over time, these tactics can erode your sense of confidence and independence, making it harder to envision a way out. Recognizing these behaviors for what they are is a crucial step in regaining control over your life.
Build a Support Network
Reach out to trusted family members, friends, and Mendo Lake Women’s Clinic for help and encouragement. Having a support network and getting the information and resources you need are essential for navigating this difficult time.
We can offer you new perspectives and potential solutions that you might not have considered along with valuable referrals to help you chart a healthy course forward.
We’re Here to Support You
Mendo Lake Women’s Clinic is a safe, non-judgmental environment willing to walk with you compassionately. We offer no-cost pregnancy testing, limited ultrasounds, and other services to help you through your pregnancy.
Regardless of what options you’re considering, we are here to walk alongside you and offer the support, care, and respect you deserve during this challenging time.
Contact us to learn more about how we can help you today to receive compassionate care.
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