My Partner is Pressuring Me to Have an Abortion, but I’m Not Sure?

Dealing with an unplanned pregnancy is daunting enough without the additional pressure from your partner to try and sway you towards an option.

As you navigate this situation, read this article for steps to ensure you make a pregnancy decision out of confidence rather than fear.

Assess the Situation

If your partner is trying to convince you that an abortion is the best route, try to understand where they are coming from so that you can respond appropriately. 

Different kinds of pressure may affect their preference for this option, so try to assess the situation to determine how open they are to hearing your point of view. Here are a few questions to ask yourself: 

• Is my partner set on abortion and unwilling to learn more about other options?
• Is he demonstrating abusive behavior, such as verbal or physical threats?
• Does he have any support system, such as a trusted friend or family member, to help him process this?
• Do I have a preference for a specific option other than abortion?
• Am I willing to continue with the pregnancy, even without his support?

Your partner may initially respond out of fear or anxiety to the news of the pregnancy, so giving him space or encouraging him to seek support as he processes it may help.

Mendo Lake Women’s Clinic offers no-cost consultations to explore your options in a safe and supportive environment as you determine the best path forward together.

Get Informed

While trying to reach an agreement with your partner is ideal, the ultimate decision belongs solely to you from a legal perspective. 

If you’re unsure where to start, we offer no-cost, limited ultrasound to clarify gestational age (how far along you are in your pregnancy), the pregnancy’s location, and if it is viable (growing with a detectable heartbeat). Research says up to 26% of pregnancies end in a miscarriage, so get all the information you need first. 

We can also connect you to local resources, provide medically accurate information,  and answer any questions about abortion procedures or the pregnancy process in a safe and confidential environment.

Feel Empowered

Whether or not your partner supports you, we are here to walk this journey with you. We support and help empower you to feel confident in your decision. Contact us today to schedule your options consultation!